help girl trouble
hey guys..i need help...i like this girl at skool and i have her on msn..but she barely knows me...and when i say to her how do u know me..she says dont worry i just know you
well wenever she comes on msn ..i dont know wut to say ...i like her alottttt... all i say is hi thats it..so help me start a convo with her..
ya thats the only thing i say to her..any other suggestions..like how should i start a convo...ill start off by sayin hi ..then wut else?
So, did she IM you, or you IM her?
Regardless really, just ask A LOT of questions. Girls love to talk, and asking them good questions are fantastic. DO NOT speak much about yourself unless she asks you first, or it's a part of the conversation, OR you just completely run out of things to say.
BTW: SOme more advice to you that I've come to learn...
1) No matter how wonderful you think she is...Your more than likely making her out to be more than she already is. Believe me..I know. She may be a nice girl, or whatever, BUT she isn't as great as ya think.
2) Move fast, but not to fast. Make damn sure she doesn't find a b/f while your talking to her and trying to get with her, but also make sure you don't scare her away
3) Figure out what kind of girl she is, and figure out what she likes, and don't like before you really go directly for her.
I.E: If she's a girl who's had a lot of b/f's then moving fast wouldn't be bad. On the other hand if she's a girl with never a b/f' then more than likely take it kind of slow.
4) Just think of her as another girl that is your friend or something when you talk to her. If you do this you won't be so afraid to talk to her. Don't bother really thinking of what to say (maybe a few things on what you might say is okay), but just talk to her casually, and make conversation as you would any of your friends.
and don't ever write her a letter btw...Do everything in person!
Just to let us now..How old are you, and how old is she?
First of all..........how old are you? That's actually a pretty importan question for me to give you appropriate advice.
hey thx for the replys...im 13
Damn sorry to say this but you have no chance unless you develop some social skills and fast. At 13 if you can't say more than hi than you're in trouble. Even if you get with her, i doubt you would be with her for long so my advice is use her to learn about women and how to talk to them. Learn from your mistakes. (And don't take Primenal's advice.....he's been doing nothing but striking out:p)
First of all, pretend as if you dont have her name on MSN. Online chat can be a very good tool, but it can be extremely dangerous. If you are not talking to the girl in person yet, dont attempt to talk to her online. While you can get to know her abit online, what it does is make it much more ackward to be with her in person. What you need to do if build confidence, and talk to her in person. One important tip, at your age. TALK TO EVERY GIRL YOU CAN! When you are sitting in class, and have some girl you dont even like next to you, just try to talk to her and become social with her as much as you can. Try to make friends with as many as possible, not trying to make them your girlfirned or anything. This will help IMMENSELY down the road. Chances are youll like other girls down in highschool, years from now. And youll be in the same possition as you are now, but if you take advantage of the age you are now, and befriend as many girls as you can, later on, you may either know the girls you want that you previously didnt want, or you will know her friends, and that will make it 100 times easier to get a girl later on. Also itl make you way more confident with girls, and they will want you more.
Also, when talking to her, forget you like her, and sont try to find out what kind of girl she is first, find that out by talking to her. Try to become her friend before making her your girlfriend.
And to give you some advice as you're growing up......
'Don't stick it in the crazy.'
LOL, idiiot...That is very young, but definitely a good time to learn. Wish I would have been going out with girls at 13, BUT I was to busy dieing in the hospital all the time. Kind of more worried about myself than anyone else ;).
Make sure you don't waste to much time with her though. If she says NO then you realized you could have been going out with somebody else by now instead of screwing with a lost cause. Take time, but not to much time.
I think I'm gonna take Nec's advice though from now on, and just ask girls out left and right. I seen this hot woman tonight at the store that was checking out, but Unfortunately I forgot my bag of stuff on this bench...Went back to get it, and when I came looking for her again she was gone :(. Damn, she had a nice ass ;), and a nice everything to tell the truth. Ah well, isn't hard to find a looking girl (even in West virginia LOL), and definitely isn't hard to flirt.
BTW: Nows the perfect time cuz I'm blessed. My dad and mom are having problems so my moms going to move out. Meanwhile, my dad works out of state, and leaves sunday night, and comes home friday night. SO, house all to myself on the weekdays, or whoever I want to come over ;).