girls....i just cant handle them..

[retro]

Man, f*** girls. You're right hand will always be there when you need her. She will never let you down. Never have to take her out to dinner, never have to cuddle or talk. What more could you ever want?

both you and i know that if your hand could perform as good as a girl that would be the end of mankind

I love girls, i think the are great, but i just cant figure them out.

As a followup on my story my x x girlfriend the one that i have the child with talked to me over msn and were hinting bigtime that she were going out today and maybe wanted to come over later after the party and... She were realy straightforward on this

And myfriend from last weekend wanted me to come over tomorrow for some fun...
hope non of them stumble over this forum somehow then
i guess this will end up pretty ugly

But hey.. im single right?

[Primenal]

Do as you please, but as far as you not being able to figure them out...It's easy, and takes time. The secret is You don't want them...You make them want you. Here's my life for an example:
Most of my life I was sickly, and never even went to school (homebound usually). So, when it came to society, and dating I didn't know jack shit. Most people learn about relationships early on in elementary school with little notes, and crap, but I was never there...Or always sick so I didn't get to go through that phase. So, then comes middle school, and the same thing (I've had tons of different health problems in my life). Then, on to high school which I was more healthier, at school more, and up until that point never really dated anybody. Never even hardly went through my mind before that cuz I thought I'd just bring somebody else down with me....
Then, never going through the dating game, and trying at that point was like a caveman trying to come back and function today LOL. So, not so good . I've always been a home person though, so started lifting weights, and boxing cuz I had nothing better to do. I finally find a girl to try shit out on a couple years ago, and got to learn from my first bad very bad experience, and it'll be the last.
So, I end things with her, join a gym, and been working out non-stop for like 9 months now (5-6 days a week, at least an hour and a half every day), etc. Then, have the girls chasing me. Get my car fixed up pretty nice, and more girls chase. Then, I get a promotion at work, girls find out, and they chase more.

You just simply pretend you could care less about them flirting with you, and they love it. You can talk to them, be nice, but you don't flirt back right away, or do it in a very ****y (I'm doing you a favor) kind of way . After breaking up with her it took me quite some time to really understand, but take advantage of you being single right now. Take this opportunity to find out your true self without anybody else swaying your decisions, or clouding up your mind. Figure out what you want before jumping to just any old thing, and develop a lot of confidence. Everybody respects confidence. Girls want to be around a guy who has so much confidence that she thinks he doesn't even need her (this is where the question "Why do assholes get the girls" comes from). So, girls really aren't hard, and just people in general aren't hard to understand if you pay close enough attention.

[dick_onion53]

the key is to find one that you know really well and can actually get along with

...quit the drinking... it'll get you nowhere... any girl worth while frowns upon alcoholics

don't cheat... your relationship will last longer

just my advice...

[Sliced]

I wouls stop right now, because if your going to know how bad your going to feel when your sober, i would stop right away.

[retro]

Some time has passed and i have decided to stop drinking and get some distance to all the involved girls. Its been 1 week since my last drink/beer.
Its pretty hard to stay away from it (including the girls), but my mind is set up.
when i have solved my own issues i will most defenetly try to find my self a decent,sober girl.
Thats my plan for now.

Thanks for all the posts.

[Primenal]

In the meantime find yourself a hobby. Nobody should just quit drinking/ chasing girls without something to do...Unless you work like 7 days a week. Lose your mind with boredom. Really isn't a whole lot of things to do though (i'm guessing that's why most people drink LOL).
The gym is a wonderful hobby to me. You look better, feel better, AND plus once you do go decide to find another girl your a lot more confident about yourself, and more appealing.
More appealing= More selection= *MAYBE* ya find a decent one

[retro]

thats the hard part, finding something else to do. My whole life is built around parties and drinking.
Moding consoles is one hobby/job thats keep me away from drinking (its darn hard to mod when your drunk )
but i dont do that many consoles to keep me bussy all week.
Maybe the gym isnt all that bad after all.. I will give it a shot.

[dick_onion53]

you could also try to find some more positive friends, if you're hanging around people who drink then you will NEVER be able to stop drinking. Look in the gym, or maybe even in church for better friends/people to hang around.

again, just my advice...

[retro]

I stumbled across this old thread and if someone think its funny to hear whats happening in my strange life, heres part 3

So i did not manage to stay sober/clean for long, 2 weeks i guess.
Then hell broke loose... I lost the right to take care of my child,and my drinking,drug use were unstopebel.
So i cried out for help to my mother,father and xx girlfriend... and
after a fue days they convinced me to go to a info meeting at a rehab clinic.
So we went and it all seemed good, so after a fue days i went there and stayed thru the hole program (1 month).
I must say.. that place is realy amacing! they totaly made me see life thru a hole new angle!

So now im going to NA meetings every day and my life realy staring to change. i feel like a totaly new person.
For the first time in 14 years a appriciate life!

And about all girls... well, im totaly focused om my life now and i understand that i cant handle any kind of relationship at this moment.
But i have great contact with the mother of my child and visit them offen.
And the girl i were drinking/using with before... she is considering also joining NA.
She has also got herself a boyfrind witch seems to treat here nice.

So things are looking up

2 mounth sober and drugfree on thursday!

[kidman64]

good to see you making nice progress i'm not addicted to anything (internet doesn't count, right?) but i KNOW how hard is to stay away from some things that (for short period of time) make you feel good. keep it up!