1. I would recommend the matrix infinity with the foundmy fix at http://www.foundmy.com. You can choose the crystal chip if you want an xbox like chip.
2. There is a backup forum on this site. But I recommend dvd decrypter for making the images and nero or record now max for buring them.
3. The matrix infinty has a method to burn the flash. It's on their website for http://www.infinitymod.com/matrix.
Well I recommend using 30 awg and 22 awg wire. Getting some kester sp-44 flux which can be found online for 2 bucks. The foundmy fix can be purchased with the infinity for $1.20 and it protects the console. There is software on the ps2-scene forum which isn't that much. .032 rosin core solder is important. The infinity can flash itself without needing software. I hope this helps.
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